The First Navy Wife Friend

I mentioned before that Mrs D and I are extremely lucky we've had each other through this journey. And we are! In fact just last night she came over while her man was on an underway, and obviously my mine is still in the midst of his deployment. We sat around eating pizza, watching Netflix movies, and gossiping. It was a perfect night. I felt 16 again, the only thing missing was some rounds of Karaoke.

However, when I first moved here after marrying my mister, Mrs D was not here. She was back home with our fams. I moved here on my own. The first navy wife I met was N. She was JT's  friends wife, and she was the "caregiver" to all of the single sailors her husband was friends with. She had taken care of my man for months, letting him crash on their couch to get off the boat, feeding him, letting him use all the hot water he wanted, and doing his tremondous amounts of laundry for free.

JT was convinced that when I met N she and I would enjoy playing housewives together. However, I was not so sure because N was 5 months pregnant, and I, a newlywed was so far from the baby-making plan that I just wasn't sure. Oh, but my husband was so right. N quickly became my 1st Navy Wife Bff.
We did play housewives together, and since she was in the middle of her first pregnancy, my apt. became the new Bachelor Crash Pad. Together she and I took these guys under our wings, and most of the time I swear even now, I am married to 4 guys instead of just 1 the way my house operates.We opened our homes to nights of Rock Band and Call of Duty, pizzas and beer, an abundance of dishes, couch crashers, and the neverending task of baking all types of pastries. N and I had fun! Through our fun I learned my place as a Navy Wife... I learned that sometimes my house is a continuous Bed and Breakfast, and occassionally my life looks a little too much like a 1950's butter commercial,  and that often we tend to take the back burner to our husbands' true wives; the Navy, but One good friend, One Navy Wife friend, can make those things bearable.
N's mister chose to get out of the Navy, and 8 months ago they moved several hours away from here, but she is still frequently my go-to Navy wife, and the person I call for all kinds of random questions, and trust me N and her mister will make several more appearances in my story.

Gossip Gals....The Beginning of it.

Everyone who has fallen happenstance to this blog has probably read other military spouse blogs. Maybe you are here to learn about mil spouse life or maybe you are here to gain support from fellow comrades in the same boat as you. Whatever your reason I’m glad you stumbled upon our site.

I promise we DO hope to give support to all of our readers and that we will tell you about our lives as mil spouses.

I’m going to confess my plans for this blog to you, for you see there is no reason to write if you do not have a purpose. I am here to Spill my guts. I am not here to be PC. I am not here to concern myself with hiding the truth of what goes on. Think of Mrs D and I as the Gossip Girls of Navy Wives.

I have read other blogs, I have seen how everyone tries so hard to be careful, and Not say the wrong the thing. Most bloggers leave out the nitty gritty details the things that Matter. It’s the True events that get us to find the meaning in the lessons.

Sometimes the lessons are not easy, sometime they cannot be explained in a PC manner. Sometimes events and relationships are messy.

I’ll tell you right now, Mrs D and I are not here to hurt anyone’s feelings we are not here to “cause drama”

we will Never reveal anyone’s true name including our own. You may think you know us, you may damn well be right, but we won’t tell you. You can keep on guessing. And if for some reason you want to guess, Don’t. Don’t do it publicly not here. Not on our site.

For you see the way to maintain truthful is to remain anonymous.

Here’s one final disclosure:

Truth is relevant to the beholder. There is always two sides to every story and usually there is a third or fourth side. Mrs B and I will tell our sides the way we see it. Occasionally, a detail or two may be changed, we may not remember something Exactly as it happened, our memories could occasionally fail us, and on an extremely Rare occasion we may *gasp* Embellish a detail for your or our own amusement.

I add this disclosure so as to avoid falling into the James Frey trap and we do not have “A Million Little Pieces” back lash.

So thanks for tuning in today.

Until next time,

XOXO

The Run Down... thus far.

Well, Mrs D finally made an appearance! LOL

I decided that we are going to need a recap of all that is going on because if you haven't noticed our Gossip Girl style, we don't use our real names. It's much easier that way, a little bit of autonomy, so that we can write as we will.

So our Character or Cast List:

Writer: Mrs D
Writer: Mrs. T, or "T"
T's Husband: JT
Mrs Ds Husband: Mr. D

Minor Characters:

Mrs Ds Ex: The Ex (even though he is very insignificant, Mrs D and I wouldn't be here if it weren't for him).

Location: Virginia, USA.

The Start of it All. (aka Anti Valentine's Day).

Two years ago, I made a spur of the moment trip to Virginia. I had an opportunity to get away from the Valentine's Day Hype. Now most single girls know that Valentine's Day is not fun for Single Ladies. It's a constant reminder of how Alone we are, and that is Not a fun reminder. Two years ago, I was 23 turning 24, and I loved being single, but even an Independent woman who Loves being free with no attachments would like to receive flowers or at least a candy bar on Valentine's Day.

So, I took off! I made a mad dash to O'Hare airport, jumped on a flight, and landed in Norfolk, Virginia to spend some quality time with my bestie, Mrs D. Valentine's Day weekend marked 9 months since I had last seen her, who had up and moved out to Virginia on a lark, for none other than... you guessed it A BOY.

However this V-Day, Mrs D, was spending it alone while said Guy was on a Deployment. She had great party plans arranged for my arrival including an Anti-Valentine's Day. Oh yes, that's right. Anti -Vday for all the single people and people who couldn't be with their Significant Others. Six people gathered for a nice lil house party, 3 guys and 3 girls. Boy, Girl, Boy, Girl - how cozy!

Well, it was rather cozy, very quickly for me, because within 20 mins. I was outside the house talking to my mom on the phone telling her "I met someone" and he was outside sitting on the front porch telling his friend, "I'm gonna marry that girl".

Love at first sight isn't just a fairy tale. Who Knew?!?! The rest of the weekend gave me 5 days to get to know my Prince Charming.


When all is said and done, my story starts at that moment. The moment I ran away from Valentine's Day and ran SMACK into Love.
                                                      
Always,

The Beginning.

Mrs D and I have been friends for over 10 years now. We worked together at an all American teen job, in a little Indiana town and our boyfriends had been best friends. We imagined we had it all back then, but that is an entirely different story, another book completely. I don't think at that time either of us could ever have forseen the path of our friendship taking the direction it has. I still find it hard to believe...

This story though, the one I want to tell now, it starts 2 years ago, at what could culminate as the beginning of our true adulthood. It started as a simple trip to visit a friend who had moved away from home, and ended up as the weekend I would meet my husband, a Sailor.

That's right, I took the oath... I am a Navy wife, it's been 1 year and 4 months. And, this past July, Mrs D took the same oath. She too is a Navy wife. Surprisingly, we have been fortunate: our husbands are stationed at the same East Coast base, and we live a city away from each other, a mere 12.6 miles. Mrs D and I have made a fair share of friends out here, but I really have not met another wife, who has gotten lucky enough to have her best friend in the same location as her. This is truly something special and rare, but it makes our story that much more intersting to tell.

Mrs D and I are here together, on this blog to tell our story.

We are Real Navy House Wives,